When in doubt, blame the childless people
Choosing to be childless is no picnic. People who are voluntarily childfree have been called lots of things, from selfish to weird to clueless, to smug, to worthy of pity for the one-way path to a life devoid of meaning they’re most certainly on.
"Marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure in human relationships. No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that. Through love and patience, believing in one another, supporting one another, learning to forgive, and learning to appreciate your differences. By making the important things matter, and letting everything else go."
Anonymous asked: Hello there. I'm also a supporter of childfree views, however, my boyfriend not so much, we've been dating for quite a while now and whenever he talks about our future and us getting married he talks about our "kids" he's not really that into them but he would like to have one. I really love him but cannot make such sacrifice for him. I want him to be happy because we're so much alike. I don't know what to do, am I wasting my time with him? I would love some advice. Thanks.
Hello. I really appreciate you coming to me for advice on this. That is a really difficult situation to be in. I would definitely tell your boyfriend how you feel about having children and if it’s not something you can compromise on, then you should tell him that especially if you don’t have any intention of changing your mind ever. I understand you not wanting to hurt him, but if you withhold this information from him then you may end up hurting him worse in the long run. If you end up having a child some day because he wants you to you might even end up resenting him and if he stays with you when he really wants children he might end up resenting you if it is that important to him. I’m sure that isn’t the kind of relationship that either of you want to have so the best option might be for you guys to go your separate ways if this is a deal-breaker. I can’t say if that is the best option for certain though since I don’t know either of you. That is really something you both should figure out together. It depends on the level of importance that each of you place on this issue. Good luck!
Feeling so shitty this morning thanks to allergies. It’s a little cooler out, but it still feels humid. Ugh! At least I only have 2 days of work before the 3 day Holiday weekend starts.